This may be my most vulnerable post ever. I am going to ask you guys for some help. With all of the moms out there, I just know that some of you have the solution I’m looking for.
Some of you may have noticed I haven’t posted in almost a week. A lot of that has been that I have been up to my eyeballs in busy mommy stuff. You know the same stuff that all of you deal with….life.
Another reason is that I have been an emotional wreck.
I can’t get my 5-year old to listen to me worth a lick. I will say something, she will say “ok”, then two seconds later she will do exactly what I told her not to, or she won’t be doing what I asked her to.
She’s one of those care-free souls that just goes around life with a smile on her face.
I have done time-out. That doesn’t seem to phase her. She just is nonchalant about the whole thing. I have taken toys away – even thrown toys away. She cries, but the message isn’t sinking in.
The only thing that seems to work is if I yell.
I DON’T WANT TO YELL!
I hate feeling mean. I hate that I have to do that to get a response.
These past few days have been especially hard.
We just bought a treadmill last week, and set it up downstairs in our basement family room.
On one half of the room is my kids’ play area. The other half is separated by a couch. The treadmill is on the other side of the couch – away from the toys.
It has a sensor magnet that you have to hook up to even start the thing.
We keep that up on a shelf out of the reach of our children.
We also unplug the treadmill.
Our kids have been told to NOT TOUCH THE TREADMILL!!!!!!!! (I wish I could emphasize how much).
Last weekend we had family over for dinner. After eating the adults were sitting around the table visiting. The kids were downstairs playing. My 2-year old nephew came upstairs and had hurt his ankle. It looked like a burn.
We ran downstairs and my 5-year old was on the treadmill. She had climbed up grabbed the sensor, figured out where to attach it, plugged the treadmill in, and pushed the buttons to get it going.
Are you seeing where this is going?
My 2-year old nephew’s ankle had been burned by the treadmill.
This is a picture a few days later.
I’m just sick to my stomach about this.
My 5-year old was punished. It was even her birthday and she wasn’t allowed to have some of her presents for a couple of days. She also couldn’t have treats with the family for several days (and we make cookies almost every single day).
I know she felt badly about it, but that doesn’t change the fact that she didn’t listen.
So please all of you moms, grandmas, aunts, etc.
Please help me. I feel like I’m failing as a mom and I’m at the end of my rope.
I am desperate for any advice.
Thank you in advance for any help you can give me.